GREW UP IN A CULTURE DIFFERENT FROM THE ONE OF YOUR PARENTS? I AM HERE TO HELP YOU DEFINE YOUR IDENTITY!
TCK & ATCK COACHING & COUNSELLING
“It is my fate to wander from place to place, and to adapt to new soils. I believe I will be able to do that because handfuls of Chilean soil are caught in my roots; I carry them with me always.”
Isabel Allende, Third Culture Kid from Chile, whose father was a diplomat
A third culture kid (TCK) is “a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents’ culture. The TCK builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar experience” (Pollock & Van Reken)
As an Adult Third Culture Kid (ATCK), I know well the incredible blessing of having had such a rich life but also the sense of fear, looseness and grief we had to go through.
“Where are you from?” Each time I get the question, I feel like I need to explain myself, prove my origins, and because of that I’ll often find myself omitting parts of my story in order to make my identity more palatable for others.
How many times have I felt an outsider? Am I rootless, or am I free? Who am I really? Where do I belong? Where is home?
I, like many other ATCKs, never quite feel at home anywhere. Sometimes I feel as if I’ll never find that one place where I belong 100%. I just feel blessed to have had the privilege of experiencing so many cultures.